There are all kinds of additions you can add to your basic ceremony. Clever brides & grooms come up with new traditions every day. Your officiant can suggest wording to explain each tradition to your guests so they understand the message you want your ceremony to convey – to each other – and to your family and friends.
Here are some old and new ideas.
Sand Pouring. Different colors of sand represent the individual lives of the bride and groom. Pouring sand together forms layers showing their unique identities and personalities. Once joined, the sand can never be separated and it is impossible to determine where one layer begins and the other ends.
Covenant of Salt. This is similar to Sand Pouring. Salt is poured by the bride and groom to signify that which is lasting and preserved. Salt has long been used as a preservative. In the bible salt is mentioned as a “covenant” and in ancient times, salt was used by traders as payment or a promise of payment symbolizing truth and honesty in a transaction. Today there are many different colors of salt available and you could have a pretty little salt vessel on your table every day to remind you of your wedding and your love.
Unity Candle. The Unity Candle has been around for a while but is still a beautiful addition. Two lit candles represent the individuals coming together to light the larger candle – representing their life together going forward. This is also a nice way to symbolize the unity of two families coming together and is a great way to have family members participate. For example, have the moms of bride and groom light the individual candles; or if there are stepchildren, ask them to participate in lighting the large candle.
Jumping the Broom. Traditionally associated with the Romani people of Eastern Europe and with African-American couples, this is a cool, fun ceremony. Brooms are used for sweeping – symbolize what you are putting behind you. The broom is laid down in front of the bride and groom and together they jump over the broom and into their future!! Decorate a great cinnamon scented broom with your wedding colors for a beautiful, sweet-smelling addition to your wedding.
Handfasting. This tradition is steeped in Scotch, Irish and Welsh cultures, and although also associated with Neopagen rituals, today handfasting is used to signify the “tying of the knot.” Using beautiful ribbons, lace or braided cords are a lovely addition to your ceremony and can also be a nice way of incorporating family members or friends to assist with the “tying.”
Ring Warming. This is a sweet sentiment and way for your guests to participate in your ceremony. Put your wedding rings put into a beautiful box, pretty little bag or other attractive, small container. A special person or family member passes the rings among the guests before the ring exchange. Your officiant can ask the guests to “warm” the rings with a special prayer or wish.
Wine & Love Letter. Write secret love letters to each other and put them into a wine box with your favorite wine. Seal the box with a nail or lock as the officiant explains that the box will be opened on a special anniversary (or if their marriage hits a bumpy patch) when they will share the wine and read the love letters they wrote to each other, reminding them of their wedding day and the reasons they came together.
Time Capsule. Similar to the Wine & Love Letter ceremony, seal a personalized container containing meaningful items from your engagement and wedding and put it away for a several years and then open to remind you of all the love that brought you together. This is another idea that allows your guests to take part by dropping small notes of advice or well-wishes into your “capsule.”
There are many ways to express yourselves and your love and commitment – use your imagination to make your wedding ceremony significant and memorable! I love being an officiant and helping couples do just that.
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